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Focus on the Family Broadcast

Helping Your Kids Know God Better

Helping Your Kids Know God Better

Chap Bettis encourages parents to be more intentional about sharing the Gospel with their children. Chap also addresses “pharisee parenting” where moms and dads need to be sure their own walk with the Lord is solid before preaching to their kids.
Original Air Date: July 8, 2022

Preview:

Parent #1: I think the goal for me would be for them to have good character.

Parent #2: My biggest goal, quite honestly, is for them to grow up and be good friends.

Parent #3: That they really find what they’re passionate about doing — whether that’s being a mechanic or engineer, whatever that might be. And that they would be able to just pursue that and enjoy that as a career. And really see some purpose in doing that as well.

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John Fuller: Well, what goals do you have for your children? Uh, what we just heard sound like some good ideas. Uh, but what about the spiritual growth of your kids? What are you aiming for? This is Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, and we’re gonna examine the process of faith training or discipleship today and how you can effectively do that with your kids. Thanks for joining us. I’m John Fuller.

Jim Daly: Uh, John, we don’t often hear the word, “discipleship,” these days. Uh, but thousands of years ago, this approach of education, or to education, was quite normal. A teacher would gather a group of followers or disciples to instruct them, and the goal of a disciple was not only to learn from their teacher but to imitate, uh, their way of life, and become like them. I think, uh, Ray VanderLaan, for those that know the series, That the World May Know, this is something he really teaches that the, uh, disciples, were really asked to follow the steps of Jesus, and literally. And, uh, I had the privilege of going to the Middle East with Ray. And Jean and I both, and that was the main point. You do what the rabbi says to do, and you walk the way he walks. And it’s really emphasized in Jewish tradition. I think that’s why Jesus spent three years pouring into those 12 men, and why he calls us his disciples today. And here’s something our guests shared that I found fascinating. The word Christian only appears three times in the New Testament. Did you know that?

John: I did not.

Jim: (laughs)

John: No.

Jim: And the word disciple appears 269 times, so there’s obviously something of value we can all learn about discipleship today.

John: Yeah, and this is something that is so critical, passing on our faith to the next generation. It’s one of the biggest needs that we hear about from, uh, parents these days, Jim. Uh, they call us, they contact us here at Focus saying, “How do I do this better?”

Jim: Yeah. That’s the, that’s the big question in parenting. And we want to help you with that. Uh, that’s why we’ve invited Chap Bettis to join us. He was a pastor for 25 years before starting a ministry called The Disciple-Making Parent. Good title.

John: Mm-hmm.

Jim: (laughs) And uh, he’s an author and speaker and he has a passion to help us do this job of discipling our children better. And I want to say, welcome, Chap.

Chap Bettis: Well, thank you. It’s a plea-

Jim: It’s a little late. I’ve got 21- and 19-year old’s, but I guess I could still do this, right?

Chap: It’s never too late.

Jim: That’s it.

John: Well, Chap has written a great book that’s going to be the foundation for our conversation today. The Disciple-Making Parent. Uh, we’ve got copies of that here at the ministry. Stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast to get yours.

Jim: Uh, Chap, you believe many Christian parents are confused about this idea of discipling their own children. Uh, in fact you say it’s kind of a counter cultural thing. Why is it counter cultural?

Chap: Well, I think every parent wants to give their kids the best.

Jim: Yeah.

Chap: The question is, what is-

Jim: Hm.

Chap: The best.

Jim: Okay. What is it?

Chap: Well, we’re surrounded by people who say the best is sports, the best is, ex-, uh, education, the best is, uh, a number of experiences. I want to give my kids lots of experience.

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Chap: But what I, what I want to do is as from the perspective of 10,000 years what is best? And the answer to that, if we’re Christians, is the gospel. And really, I think sometimes in one side of our brain we have our parenting philosophy, and then we have what we know about the Bible on the other side. And I want to bring those together and say God hasn’t just given you a baby. He’s given you an eternal soul to, uh, to influence.

Jim: Uh, is it a matter of degrees, though? I mean, I think it’s reasonable for a parent to say, “I hope my son or daughter grows up to do fill in the blank.” I mean, and, and if you see that interest as a eight, nine, 10-year-old, you’re going to … It’s probably one of the reasons kids are in so many sports programs, right, because I had the next NFL quarterback.

Chap: (laughs).

Jim: Right in my own family or whatever it might be. But, maybe it’s uh, a question of emphasis. And so you want to develop them vocationally with their interests, but at the same time, the more important thing that you’re saying is make sure that they’re developing spiritually.

Chap: Right. I, uh, absolutely. Those are all things that I think we’re called to develop our children. Um, and I, certainly I got a great education, tried to give my own kids a great education, involved them in lots of activities. But, 3 John 4, Johns says, “I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth.” And so, to me, it’s what is the first priority? What is the north star that I’m aiming at? And all these other things we’ll add in, and we’ll have a good time, but what is that what is that north star?

Jim: Well, hopefully we’ll unfold that over the next half hour. So, uh, let’s, let’s kind of progress through this, though. You address the problem of child centered families. I think I understand where you’re going. Uh, this would be where parents do almost anything for the sake of their kids. I think the chauffer mom or dad-

Chap: Mm-hmm.

Jim: Is probably, uh, you know, an example of that. But you told your children, “I’ll die for you, but I won’t live for you.” What did that mean?

Chap: Well, I, you know. E- every parent will, a good parent will, will sacrifice for their children. But having said that, I think as we develop them in all these activities, they can get the feeling that they are the center of our universe.

Jim: Hm.

Chap: And that’s a very heavy weight for a child. Like, they, they’re not called to be the center of the universe. Jesus Christ is the center of the universe. And therefore, he’s the one first I live for. And of course my kids are welcome members of the family and, and yes, we make huge sacrifices but, uh, I want them to know that I, I’m living for something bigger than them, that my, my joy is, is not totally tied up with them. First, I serve the Lord, then I love my wife. Uh, I’m also involved in a church, and yes, along the way, we do some sports things, and we do some educational things.

Jim: But again, uh, so often in parenting, I mean it’s kind of like a dimmer switch. You know, it’s not on or off. Your kind of living in this, you know, this degree of-

Chap: Yeah.

Jim: Life. So what are some of the practical things that should alert you that you’re creating a child-centered family? I mean, taking them to school is a good thing. (laughs)

Chap: Yeah.

Jim: So that doesn’t fall in that box, but give us some examples of what, if you were to do a self-assessment, you might go, mm, okay, I might be creating a child centered home?

Chap: Well, let’s go back to uh, did you really have a son who you thought was going to be a NFL quarterback?

Jim: I had two of those.

John: (laughs)

Chap: Okay, so-

John: (laughs) It wasn’t a hypothetical for him, Chap.

Jim: (laughs)

Chap: Okay. Okay. Well, there’s only-

Jim: But they didn’t go that direction.

Chap: There’s only 70 NFL quarterbacks, and so is that, even as I try and develop them, I need to ask, “What is the sake of eternity?” So in other words, for me, I guess, in that situation, I’m thinking is this helping them grow and flourish and become a man of God, or at some point, have we moved from Jesus being the idol, the center, to, to sports?

Jim: Yeah.

Chap: So I think counter cultural things like being committed to a local church, to evaluate those sports, uh, events in light of is this developing them as a person? Uh, every coach is going to ask you for more time, more money, right? But, uh-

Jim: No, it’s so true, and I think for the sports dad, that’s one thing you got to reel in really quickly and not, you know, kind of load the pressure onto your son or daughter that they need to play something.

Chap: Right.

Jim: It’s a, it’s a good experience, but if they don’t have the interest, they’re not doing the wind sprints.

John: Right.

Chap: Right.

Jim: Uh, describe a time, and I think we share this in common, too, probably many moms and dads, uh, I think it leans toward dads having this experience when you first hold that firstborn, and lots of emotion run through your mind at that time. I’m not going to be a good enough father, uh, to, you know, I don’t want to break this little fragile thing, and all those thoughts. What was your experience like?

Chap: I’m getting teared up even as I think about it now. I can remember May 24th, 1991, like it was yesterday, you know. And, uh, I, y-, you know, I think for dads, it’s just this theoretical concept. We’re going to have a baby. And then this person shows up and you’re like she’s so helpless, she’s so dependent on us. But I think what struck me as, as I drove home from the hospital, uh, and I just re-, I remember breaking down in tears, was combining, again, combining my experience of seeing my daughter for the very first time with what I know about the Bible and saying, “God has not just entrusted a little girl to me.” This is a soul-

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Chap: That’s going to live forever. And I have the ability privilege, my wife and I have the privilege of influencing her towards the Lord Jesus. And, and so I remember crying out on the way home just in tears saying, “Lord show us, show us how to do this.”

Jim: In, in Matthew, the great commission, you’ve kind of suggested, you, strongly in the book, that, that starts with your parenting. I don’t think a lot of people will apply that scripture to your parenting, uh, assignment, but I see the analogy. Explain it further.

Chap: Well, Jes- … In Matthew 28, Jesus gives us what’s been called the great commission, which we’re to make disciples of all nations, and churches rightly send people across the oceans and go across the street, uh, so that, that there will be followers of Jesus. But I’m suggesting we also need to go across the dining room table, because, um, when you disciple someone in the church, you get them for maybe a year, maybe a, maybe two years, but God gives you these little people that you get to influence, and they start imitating you and, and you get to teach them, and, and shape them, uh, for good or for bad, and uh, you know, it’s quite a privilege. But yeah, I would suggest that Matthew 28 uh, the make disciples actually applies to us as parents.

Jim: No, I think it’s good and a good way to look at that. Uh, as parents, we want our kids to be a good reflection of uh, of our values. I think we tend to lean toward behavioral measures. You know, our kids are telling the truth, they’re making their beds, they’re doing everything (laughs) right. They’re getting a sticker for the right things. Uh, I understand you had an experience with your daughter when she was pretty young, and, and uh, I think she kind of, um, misinterpreted some things. So what was that story?

Chap: Well, y-, y-, you know, you think example’s a very powerful teacher, right? So you’re, you’re just, so, my four-year-old daughter and we’re taking her to church and we’re singing hymns and we’re reading her the Bible and, and, uh, so one day, I, she’s upstairs in her room, and I hear her singing Holy, Holy, Holy, the great hymn.

Jim: (laughs)

Chap: And I’m like-

Jim: I’m such a good father.

Chap: That’s exactly-

Jim: (laughs)

John: (laughs)

Chap: You know you’re just like, “Oh Lord,” you know, I’m like what’s the problem with these other parents? You know, you’re just-

Jim: We’re doing it right, honey.

Chap: All the-, all these proud thoughts that come into your head, but uh, so I want, you know, I want to sneak up to get a closer view, and uh, sure enough, she’s in her bedroom. She’s got her mother’s, uh, high heels on. She’s pretending to be on stage, you know. But when I get up there and peer around the corner, in her hands she has fistfuls of play money, and she’s not singing Holy, Holy, Holy. She’s singing money, money, money.

John: Oh my goodness.

Chap: (laughs)

John: (laughs)

Chap: So here’s, you know, full throated, uh, worship of money in my little four-year-old, which of course is hilarious in a four-year-old.

Jim: Right. She didn’t understand the concepts.

Chap: No, no, no. But it was hilarious.

Jim: And how is she doing today?

Chap: She loves-

Jim: Is she shopping a lot? (laughs)

Chap: She loves the Lord; she still loves to sing.

Jim: That’s good.

Chap: Uh, but, and she loves the Lord.

Jim: No, that’s excellent. Uh, God has put us into families so that we can learn, you know, important lessons about conflict, forgiveness, uh, and getting along with each other. I mean, I think that’s one of the great benefits of family and the structure of family. That’s where you learn who you are and how to relate to others. Uh, you’ve paraphrased a familiar Bible verse. I think it’s John 13 in terms of parenting. So explain why that verse, uh, means something to you in your parenting journey?

Chap: Well Jesus in John, uh, 13 on his final night, he says, “All men will know you’re my disciples if you love one another.” So there, certainly there’s a case and in my own testimony, case for apologetics, but the ultimate apologetic is a loving church. Brothers and sisters loving each other. And so in a similar way, you know, the church, or sorry, the family, is a uh, is a small unit in God’s family, and so to see family members loving each other, now that means overcoming conflict. It doesn’t mean conflict free.

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Chap: But loving each other, having joy, reflecting the trinity. That’s attractive. That’s attractive to our young people who see other families that are broken. And it’s attractive to the world.

Jim: Yeah. You know the one difficulty I think, um, when you’re looking at that, that parenting issue, you know, start there and reflect the character of God, it’s hard for human beings to be perfect. Have you noticed?

Chap: (laughs)

John: (laughs)

Chap: Only today.

Jim: I mean nobody sees that clearer than your spouse and your children.

John: Yeah.

Jim: Because they’re living with you all the time. You know, when you drop the can on your toe and you don’t usually go, “Wow, that was an amazing experience, I wonder why God put me through that.” It’s not usually our response, but in that context, how do we avoid hypocrisy? You know, so our kids can truly see the spirit of God in our lives consistently. Maybe not 100%. And then how do we talk to our children about that when we blow it?

Chap: Well, I think, I think it’s understanding that the first place and the hardest place, but the first place I live out the gospel is in my home. So the way I treat my spouse, the way I treat my children is really the real me. And so to hold myself to a high standard, to say that that uh, that I actually need to love them no matter what happens. And then of course inevitably, we fail, and to be able to confess it to the Lord, to apologize to our, to our kids as well.

Jim: Yeah. You use the term Pharisee parenting, which I appreciate. I mean, that’s you know-

John: Hm.

Jim: Knowing the law, knowing the rules, but not having the heart for someone. I think a lot of children growing up in Christian homes can identify with that. They, they never can be perfect, so they always feel like they’re failing at something. They may do, be doing well in other things but if they’re not pleasing their parents with certain behavior, bam, they can get the hammer. And so how do you manage that as a parent not to be the Pharisee parent?

Chap: Well I think to me hypocrisy is not saying one thing and doing another. It’s saying one thing and doing another and not caring. So as a Pharisee parent I want to be growing myself and then I want to, as, or as fighting to be a, not a Pharisee parent, I want to be growing myself. I want to be able to see my own sin, and then I want to put, be able to put my arm around them uh, literally, or figuratively and say, “We’re going to defeat this behavior together.”

John: Hm.

Chap: So it’s not like you’re a sinner and I’m not. It’s we are, we are both, I am called to a position of authority, but I’m going to put my arm around you, literally, or figuratively, and say, “Let’s let’s defeat this together.”

John: Mm, okay, so Chap, I’m thinking of parents who, like myself, might have experienced kind of an epiphany of oh, I am actually a Pharisee parent. I think, I think the Lord gave us six children because I needed a lot of sanctification.

Jim: (laughs)

Chap: (laughs)

John: So, I can’t remember which child, but I suddenly realized as I was calling them to this super high standard, that when I was their age, I was just like them. And it really caught me by surprise because I thought, well, I was, I was projecting perfection. Okay? I was holding them to a higher standard than I could possibly attain. So, um, talk to the parent who is feeling like okay, uh, they’re touching on something. What do I do? Is it too late?

Chap: I don’t, I don’t think it’s too late, I, uh, you know, I think the parenting paradox is we expect them to obey because God commands it. We expect them to disobey because they’re children. And so in a similar way, how do I, how do I strive and encourage my child to be his best, and I certainly did that with my children. Uh, my wife as well, and yet also say we’re all going to fail and home is the place where you can come and you can talk about how you feel like you, you failed. And, and we’re on your side-

John: Yeah.

Chap: No matter what.

John: There’s a lot of asking for forgiveness, and I’m still doing that as, uh, as they’re adults now. So, we’re talking today to Chap Bettis, on Focus on the Family. Your host is Jim Daly. Get a copy of Chap’s book from us at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast, or call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY.

Jim: Uh, Chap, in the book you mention three common myths, uh, moms and dads have about discipling their children. What are they?

Chap: Well the first is uh, that the prefect environment will guarantee the perfect result. And that’s, uh, y-, y-, you know, we’re raising kids. We’re not, this is not a cookbook, uh, but going back to you know your comment, just ha- just trying to have the perfect environment. Uh, and that’s simply not true. Kids come with, uh, with sin on their hard drive.

Jim: Yeah.

John: (laughs)

Jim: But how do we as parents, I mean we do believe in formulas, unfortunately. A plus B equals C. But, with human beings, and I’m sure the Lord when he created Adam and Eve, had an idea of the way things would go, although he had all knowledge, so that’s a little bit more of a benefit, but you know, they rebelled.

Chap: Yeah.

Jim: Against God. And kids are going to do that, too, even if you’re the most loving parent they could have. You can’t control them and that’s the difficulty.

Chap: I think parents of prodigals need to hear that.

Jim: Yeah.

Chap: Because, because children, God gives all of us the ability to choose. And I think what kind of surprises us is when they’re young, we are able to control them. But later, as teens, as adults, we cannot nor should not.

Jim: Yeah.

Chap: And so they’re, they’re making their own choices and it’s, it’s not, I would say we’re not called to be successful, per se, but to be faithful.

Jim: And I like the word predictive, because that’s what it is. If you do these things and your children learn these things, it’s predictive that they’ll do well, spiritually and in every other way in life. What are the other two myths?

Chap: Well, the other two is that the ultimate goal is to have my, uh, have my kids follow the Lord. And we talked about that a little bit already, but my first priority is my own walk with the Lord. And then my spouse, and then, and then also perhaps serving in the church. So, children are welcome members, but, but they, they can’t control my joy. My joy is in the Lord, uh, even though, there’s going to be ups and downs, of course. And then, the third myth is that it’s all up to me. And then that’s not, that’s not true.

Jim: We, we, I don’t believe we would say that as a parent. I, I don’t think that would be, maybe so bold, but we do it.

Chap: (laughs)

Jim: And we may not think it.

John: Yeah. We act it.

Jim: But we act like that, like it’s all up to us.

Chap: Well, and sometimes it’s, it’s pride. I don’t want to share with other people in the church what’s going on, or I don’t want to say, “What, what did you do in this situation? We’re struggling with this right now.” Um, yeah.

Jim: I think one of the things, too, is our eagerness as parents to get our kids to the altar to make a profession of faith and, you know, do everything correctly, their baptism, et cetera. But you really, as a parent, you have to, you know, let your kids emerge in that understanding of their faith.

Chap: Mm-hmm.

Jim: Explain why you believe discipleship is that ongoing process with our children, especially during their teen years when they’ve got so many cultural influences pulling at them as well.

Chap: Well I, I think there’s a battle for our kids, but I think this is so important. And this is what I don’t think is understood. We find it in scripture. Paul said to Timothy, “As for you timothy, continue in what you have learned and become convinced of.” So Timothy grew up in a home where unbelieving dad, so hope there for every single mom. But a mother and a grandmother whose, the faith lived in them. But he, he seemed to have learned the faith and become convinced. That fits my own story, and then when I’ll teach in seminars, I’ll ask, I’ll say, “If you grew up in a gospel preaching home, church, raise your hand and then let me ask you this. How many of you, keep it raised, if you would say there was another time your faith became your own?”

Jim: Mm-hmm.

Chap: And 98% of the hands stay up.

Jim: So in that regard as a parent, what you’re really doing is creating the, the right soil, right? Letting that child’s heart become, um, obedient to the word of God. And that’s, that’s an art of parenting so that they don’t become, uh, against it. They’re not set against it through your parenting, but that they’re hearts are open to what God claims. I think with my boys I’ve recognized that. I mean for me the goal was do they have the basics; do they understand those things, and can they embrace them? And then God’s got to do the rest. And I’ve had those discussions with the boys. They’re not always going to make the right decisions, like you said, John. They’re not 50-year-old, well let’s say 60-year-old-

John: (laughs)

Jim: Christians. They’re, you know, they’re 19 and 21. And they’re going to make decisions of a 19- and 21-year-old. You’ve got to be able to do that. But, um, you know, that’s part of it is making sure they understand what the Lord’s heart would be for them in that situation, that environment.

Chap: And continue in the conversation as well-

Jim: Yeah.

Chap: Realizing, yeah, that they’re still-

Jim: Absolutely.

Chap: Still wrestling with their faith.

Jim: It’s really important. Uh, you have talked in the book about this idea of mind reading your children. I love that. I think, I think I am guilty of that, you know. Let me tell you what you’re thinking.

Chap: (laughs)

Jim: How does it work?

Chap: Well, you know, part of how do we connect to the heart, we connect to the heart through communication. And we’re actually doing realize how poor communicators we are sometimes. So some of us over talk. Some of us under talk. And yeah, so my kids called me out, uh, for reading their minds, which is not giving them time to respond to a question but telling them I knew exactly what they were thinking. (laughs) And that, that was helpful, you know, to say, “You’re right. You’re right. I’m not communicating well.”

Jim: Yeah. I think uh, Chap, when you get down to it, the parent that’s hearing us describe this maybe isn’t feeling like they’ve done what they need to do with their 12, 14, 17-year-old. And I want to give them something to change tonight when they’re with that person, that young person in their home, their child. What can they do to kind of re-, restart the relationship is probably the way to do it? If you’re feeling that much guilt. If the Holy Spirit is really penetrating your heart right now and you’re going oh, man, I’ve blown this. I’ve set all those expectations. I have measured behavior. I haven’t done enough-

Chap: Mm-hmm.

Jim: To invest in the heart. Um, I’m critical. And we can all be that way at times. What can they do differently?

Chap: Well, I, I, you know, the glory of children is their parents. They love us, and they are very forgiving. If we just, and if we, you know, confess to them, con-, confess to the Lord and really change, not just manipulatively confess it, but, uh, if we really change, there is connection. So my own, uh, wife’s huge impact on her when, when her father changed from a high corporate job to start his own business for the sake of the gospel. So, uh, they’re very forgiving. So, if, if we will, if we can confess that to them and change.

Jim: In fact in the book you, you mention a parable or a story where uh, you talk about caring a jar of acid. It’s probably a good place to land because it’s a powerful story of what to do and what not to do.

Chap: Well it goes back to the, the idea that the, the first place I live out the gospel is in my home. And the kids shine a floodlight on my soul, so I want to change no matter what. And the sto-, the analogy which is not original from me. I think I got it from the late Dr. David Polson, uh, is the, imagine carrying a cup of acid through a crowded room. Someone bumps into you, and you spill acid on the person. And, and, the person says, “Why’d you spill that?” And what do I say? “Well, because I got bumped.” That’s why I spilled the acid.

Jim: It was the other person’s fault.

Chap: Y-, Yeah. It’s the other person’s fault. But the truth is the reason I spilled acid is because there’s acid in the cup. And if there’d been no acid in the cup when I got bumped, then no acid would have come out. And so, you know, Jesus said, “Out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks.” When Jesus was reviled, when he was bumped, he did not revile in return. And so I’m responsible for my actions and my reactions and I can grow. Uh, in forbearance-

Jim: Yeah.

Chap: With, with others. And so if I, if I see that, that’s what God’s trying to do. A lot of things, but one of the things is he’s trying to very practically make me more mature.

Jim: Yeah, and Chap, that’s exactly why we wanted to have you on and talk about your book, The Disciple-Making Parent, because what I hear you say in that last comment, always be willing to grow. Especially as a parent, um, because it’ll make you a better person and diminish the amount of acid in your cup, hopefully to the point where there isn’t any. That’s the goal of every Christian, right? To, uh, model what Jesus has done for us. And so if you’re in that spot, if you’re that parent that you feel like wow, I may have too much acid in my cup, get ahold of us today and, uh, make a gift of any amount. If you can become a monthly sponsor that’s wonderful. A onetime gift is terrific as well, and it’ll be our way of saying thank you for being part of the ministry. We’ll send the book along to you as that thank you.

John: Get in touch today, donate as you can and know that we’re here for you. We have lots of great resources, including this book, The Disciple-Making Parent. Our number’s 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY, or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: Chap, again, it’s been great to have you. Thanks for being with us.

Chap: My pleasure. It’s a joy.

John: And once again, if there’s anything we can do to help you along the journey, uh, just give us a call, 800-232-6459. And let me invite you and your family to visit our headquarters here in Colorado Springs. You can see a broadcast in action maybe and visit our Adventures in Odyssey play area with your kids. There’s always a lot of great outdoor activities here in Colorado as well. And in the meantime, we hope you have a great weekend with your family and friends and with your church family as well. And be sure to join us on Monday for an important conversation with Virginia’s lieutenant governor Winsome Sears.

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The late Steve Farrar encourages men to invest time and energy into the lives of their sons, in spite of the fact that our culture emphasizes the importance of a man’s career. Steve reminds men that God wants them to love His Word deeply and teach Scriptural truths to their children and grandchildren. (Part 2 of 2)

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Praying for a Struggling Child

If your child has left the faith, it’s one of the saddest things you can discover as a parent. However, it doesn’t have to be the end of the story. John and Danny discuss why praying for your child is still effective, even if your son or daughter isn’t walking with Christ. Featuring Jodie Berndt.

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Being There For Your Son (Part 1 of 2)

The late Steve Farrar encourages men to invest time and energy into the lives of their sons, in spite of the fact that our culture emphasizes the importance of a man’s career. Steve reminds men that God wants them to love His Word deeply and teach Scriptural truths to their children and grandchildren. (Part 1 of 2)

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Our guests share their dramatic stories of surviving the attempts to end their lives while in their mother’s womb, providing a stark and undeniable counter argument to pro-abortionists who argue that a fetus is not a living human being. (Part 1 of 2)

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Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

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Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

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Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

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After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

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Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

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With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

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As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

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Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 1

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

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Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

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Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

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Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

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